The one thing that I have realised over the years is the importance of “me” time – time to allow yourself to just be. We live in such a crazy world where we are on the go 24 hours a day, 7 days a week and the pressures and expectations for us to be “perfect” are set so high. We are constantly trying to be perfect at work and at home and in all our relationships – and for those with children that pressure is even higher with the struggles to also be a perfect parent.
The thing is (and sometimes this is hard to admit) it’s ok to not be perfect as after all we are only human. It’s ok to have an off day. It’s ok to admit you are struggling. And it’s also ok for everyone to admit they need some time to themselves. This is something that has taken me so long to get to grips with. I now allow myself “me time” every day – and even 15 mins to relax and so something to make you feel great about yourself can make you feel so much better. It allows you the time to “think” and process the events of the day, accept them and move on. There are several things that I do – well 15 things – to help me relax, unwind and spend some time of me.
- Have a bath: I draw myself a bath and add bubbles and candles and just chill and relax. Its so lovely to relax in a hot bath and be alone with your thoughts. I am lucky as we don’t have children, so I don’t have any interruptions – but even for those with children its great to have even 10 minutes to yourself.
- Have a shower: My new fave thing to do is have a shower with some music on full blast. I have a couple of playlists on the go and dependant on my mood depends on which one I listen to. I get lost in the music and forget about everything – and would recommend this to anyone!
- Watch TV: I am a bit of a tv addict and have a few guilty pleasures – the biggest ones being either Call the Midwife or Keeping Up with the Kardashians. I love just relaxing either on the sofa or in bed watching one of these programmes and just unwinding and relaxing on my own (especially as my hubby hates both programmes!)
- Read: I have also been a reader. I love to read -and read anything from crime thrillers to romantics to biographies. I must admit it’s not something I have really had the time to do recently – but I am hoping to get back into it!
- Sleep/Nap: Sometimes if I am in a rubbish mood – it’s because I am tired. I get moody and grumpy with everyone and I know I need to sleep it off. A quick nap does wonders and as I love sleep – it’s one of my favourite things.
- Walk the dog: I love walking the dog on my own (don’t get me wrong I love walking with the hubby as well) as it allows me time to think, process and almost “debrief” with myself on the day.
- Play with the dog: I allow myself time every day to play with the dog. Not only is he cute and cuddly – he loves to play and always puts a big smile on my face.
- Clean: I am a tad OCD when it comes to cleaning – and find that tidying the house or sorting out washing really clears my head.
- Baking: I love to bake and it’s something I have always done. There’s something amazing and almost calming about the smell of freshly baked goods!
- Cooking: Again, I also like to cook – and turning fresh ingredients into something lovely and healthy really focuses the mind and again allows me the time to think.
- Craft activities: I love to knit and cross stitch. My grandma spent hours showing me how to when I was younger. I am currently cross stitching a cushion which will be great when finished. I have also just gotten into “latch hooking” and have just bought myself a set to make a cushion so am looking forward to starting that!
- Dancing: This is my BIGGEST guilty pleasure – dancing around the house to music. I put my headphones in and dance around the bedroom (and I will admit the hubby has caught me on NUMEROUS occasions dancing and singing and has even recorded it on his phone!) or the kitchen and I love it! Dancing it out is the best and instantly relaxes me and outs me in a better mood.
- Beauty treatment: This is something I love to do however I am not always luck enough to have the money to do these as often as I would like. I love to get my eyebrows and nails done along with having a massage and it makes me feel amazing afterwards. I really need to start doing this more!
- Driving: Sometimes I love to just get in the car and drive with the music blasting out. Even a quick drive can instantly lift my mood and make me feel great – and no offence to work -but the drive home from work daily is the best drive ever!!
- Shopping: I am not the biggest shopper and get bored and frustrated quite easily – but when I am need some me time – even just popping to the shop for some milk I love to do as again its time to think and re-focus!
Anyway, I hope you find some of these helpful. They work for me and I am always looking for other ways to spend some time on “me” so if you have any other ideas then drop me a line and let me know.
Until next time
Katie x x x